That may be true. But if I ask what you’re feeling, it’s probably because something you said suggested the likelihood of an emotional reaction. I may have even see the emotion on your face or heard it in your voice. So take a moment. Are you sure you don’t feel anything? And even if you don’t, let’s not assume emotion is fully absent. Just like memories, emotions can be repressed. To hold emotions out of awareness is a huge waste of energy and may be the cause of many psychiatric symptoms, particularly anxiety. Part of you knows something is wrong, but due to the repression, you’ve lost the ability to understand what the emotion is trying to tell you.

The important thing to keep in mind is that emotions are not your enemy. Deepening your connection to your emotions can improve your relationship with yourself and others and make life more worth living overall. An important aspect of your progress in therapy will be an increasing familiarity with what you’re feeling and the ability to express those feelings. After some time in therapy, people are often surprised that emotions, even painful ones, can be experienced as an essential part of understanding themselves, as well as simply being human.