Great question! You’re looking for a “match,” meaning someone who practices psychotherapy in a way that sounds beneficial and intriguing, who listens and understands you, and who inspires you to work hard, be vulnerable, and make changes. Also, it doesn’t hurt if you find your therapist at least a little bit funny, interesting, exciting. Psychotherapy is a time consuming, emotionally demanding, expensive process, but it doesn’t have to be a miserable slog. If you find the right therapist, psychotherapy can also sometimes be—dare I say it?—fun.